A very popular song in our moment croons You only know you Love her when you let her go. It indicates that it is when she finally flees or you leave her, you awaken to her worth, to the extent to which you loved her. And now she's gone. Bad timing in the recognition. And of course this happens. And of course it hurts!
Best news ever.
You can let her go, i.e. be non-attached and unconditional, whilst staying with her- and recognize that you love her (know that you love her), to boot. "Funny" how we can be with someone for such long times and not really know that we love them, for we're holding on too tightly-
for them to shine, for us to see accurately, for love to thrive.
"A ship is safe in the harbor, but that's not what ships are for." - William G.T. Shedd
The natural flow for each of us is to walk down the streets allowing that which we are,
a Flow of unconditional love, to pour forth to be received as acknowledgement "hello"
of each and every being. This is natural.
Our conditioning within the paradigm of coupleship creates an unnatural hoarding
causing us to hold onto that which we are, this wellspring of love, eye each person and think - "Am i attracted or not attracted, do I look attractive right now, would that be rejected or received, would it be safe or unsafe, appropriate, not appropriate, what would my girlfriend say if she saw me smile at someone?"
stagnating the flow of energy creating Depression (Happiness is love exiting the body) creating a massive epidemic of
Loneliness in our time.
The least efficient and sustainably distributed resource in our time is Self- our selves, the unconditional love that we are.
A resource that is entirely infinite.
That is why the paradigm of coupleship is failing.
That is why it will not allow itself to be sustained.
... Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.
